Sorry, guys, I have to put on my Serious Cap today.
Friday night, Animal Magnet asked me to teach him to knit. I was a little surprised since I've asked him (maybe once or twice) in the past if he wanted to learn, and he said no. But Friday, he was ready. I sat him down with some practice yarn & bamboo needles, cast on for him, showed him the basics, taught him a rhyme to help him remember what to do & he was off. I was shocked by how quickly he caught on. By the 3rd row, he was knitting by himself.
I know there are some people out there (unfortunately, I'm related to a few) who think that boys should knit as much as girls should wear pants. Fortunately, I'm not married to one.
Weedinator was interested to see Animal Magnet pick up knitting & while not interested enough to learn himself (though he has asked me before to knit on something I'm working on), he
gets it. By
gets it, I mean he gets that men & women don't have to fall into such sharply defined roles that say "men should do this, but not that" or "women only belong in the kitchen." I could never live with someone who didn't get it.
He is related to a woman, though, who doesn't like women (I can only assume she doesn't like herself) & thinks that men are better, so she doesn't like me & doesn't try to have a relationship with me. I'm cool with that. We treat each other like 2 old cats occupying the same house--you stay in your space, I'll stay in mine. She's been
declawed; I haven't.
I also have to deal with a
neanderthal guy who believes that "real men eat red meat." While I normally try to live by the adage "Judge not..." I think this is totally asinine. So all the men vegetarians out there are--what?? Not men? To him, probably not, but if you're a vegetarian, I hope you're smart enough to realize that he should be pitied. Still, I couldn't help but say something one of those times he was going off on his idiotic, macho tirade. I said, "I eat steak; does that make me a man?" (I literally could not stop myself.) Now I'm not
Halle Berry, but I'm not
Ernest Borgnine, either. I am most definitely a woman, but maybe he thinks I'm secretly a man.
While I know there are inherent, primitive biological differences between men & women (and really, we should celebrate those differences) & that's the reason more men are in fields like Math & Science & more women are teachers, I also believe that we are
equal in worth as human beings. It's a sad commentary on a society that relegates one sex to a higher status than the other (therefore, it's a sad commentary the world over). Is a man who stays at home taking care of his kids while his wife works any less "manly" than one who works construction? Is a woman who knits more of a woman than one who works construction? No need to answer that because it's obvious what society-at-large thinks when you look at the difference in our paychecks.
From the outside, my family probably looks very conventional & traditional. My husband works outside of the home & I work in it; my son plays sports & my daughter takes dance. At the same time, both of my older kids have chores that aren't doled out based on gender. They both help in the kitchen & rake leaves in the yard. I've always said that before any of them leave our home, they will each know how to cook at least one decent meal, wash their own clothes & clean up behind themselves. These are just basic survival skills that
everyone should know.
I know this may well be a phase for Animal Magnet & he'll probably move onto the Next Big Thing, but then again, he could be the next
Kaffe Fassett. The main thing is, what I try & teach all my kids is, the
possibilities for anything are always there. So now he's a baseball player, soccer player, basketball player & knitter. So what? I explained to him how the old knitting guilds were exclusively male & that fishermen & sailors often knit to pass the time; I showed him pictures of boys & men knitting. Maybe he'll feel he has to explain that to some less open-minded people one day. If so, I'm willing to give him the intellectual
artillery he'll need. Then again, a better response from him would be "so I knit; so what?"
Well, if you made it to the end of this long,
soapboxy post, thanks for reading. You will be rewarded with a small
FO next time, I promise.
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